I met with a divorce attorney yesterday. Nothing fancy. Found her through a women’s support group on Facebook. She seemed concerned about some of the financial stuff, especially when I showed her how he’d been moving money around. She said we need to act fast to prevent him from hiding more assets.
The biggest shock came when I finally logged into our old shared email account. I found confirmation emails for a credit card I didn’t know about. Not some high-limit card or anything, just a basic Capital One card with a $3,000 limit, but he’d been using it for months, mostly at restaurants and gas stations near her place.
I had to laugh when I saw charges from Planet Fitness on there. He’d been telling me he was going to that expensive F45 gym, probably to impress her. Guess the fitness influencer girlfriend wasn’t bringing in as much money as he pretended.
Today, I opened my own bank account, just a basic checking account at Chase. The lady at the bank was super helpful, showed me how to use their app and everything. It’s not rocket science, contrary to what James always said.
Oh, and I finally figured out why he always insisted on handling the Netflix account. Found out he had a separate profile set up that he’d watch with her. Real classy, James.
Edit one: Thanks for all the advice about freezing credit. Already done. Turns out it’s pretty simple.
Edit two: Yes, I’m documenting everything. I have a folder on my phone full of screenshots.
Edit three: For everyone asking, no, I haven’t responded to either of them. Lawyer says to keep it that way.
Edit four: Some of you are suggesting I expose Aurora on social media. Not interested in drama. I just want to get through this with my dignity intact.
Second update.
Quick update because this week has been wild.